Good Morning World!
The last couple of months I have felt the happiest I have ever been, this second half of my Univeristy year has made me realise how much I enjoy life. A few months back, I was stuck in a rut, I wanted to quit Univeristy and I was holding onto so much of my past that I needed things to change. Looking back at my life year ago it makes me happy to know I have grown up so much, I have so many new friends who care about me and reciprocal, but above all that I am now truly happy. I wanted to share some of the things that have helped me (in more ways than one) turn my life upside down.
1. Choosing Friends.
It sounds so cliché and petty when you hear it out loud but it does make a difference. Sometimes that friend that you’ve had for years isn’t always looking out for you best interest. I have met people at Univeristy that look out for me more than some people from back home I have known for years. Amount of time isn’t a marker of friendship. The key point here is ‘choose’. Don’t give someone the time of day when they can’t spare a moment for you.
Lets talk about it on a modest level, lets face it I wasn’t the most motivated person in the world. I use to hardly do any work and just continue living my life pretending things don’t exist. But since January I have a schedule and an eating plan. But its not enough to just have these things. You have to stick to them. Learn to say ‘no’ to other things, when your work needs to be done, do it. Don’t get your head turned, put yourself and your future first.
To quote Oscar Wilde “be yourself, everyone else is taken”, so make sure you take some time to love yourself. I’m not talking about this take a bubble bath nonsense of me-time, I’m talking about talking time out of your day to focus on yourself, and preparing yourself for the next move. Whether that be waking up an hour earlier on the day of a big presentation to evaluate what needs to be done before, or maybe even ditching a night out to stay home and recharge. Focus on you.
There is nothing I will stress more. I know a lot of people especially at Univeristy prioritise other things over sleep, and I have to hold my hands up and say I am at fault to this too. Lack of sleep has a negative effect on performance and you are unable to work to your best ability if this is lacking. It has been known for students to pull an all-nighter the day before an assignment is due in, but this will only have a negative effect on you, it wont be your best work.
5. Spending Quality Time with Quality People
It can be hard to juggle your social, work and study life all at once. I find that spending time with the family and friends who know you best can be a refreshing and uplifting. I know we all have those friends who we put up an imagine for, and I have them myself, but enjoying the company of those who you can be 100% yourself around makes everything easier. They understand you, and wont judge you on anything.
6. Managing Your Finances
Being a student, this is a must. Its the first time we are living on our own and we go a little crazy with money. So this little system will help you from splashing the cash. Everyone has a different monthly income to its important to correspond this with how you live your life. Work out how much money you have for the month and use this to calculate how much you have a week. I know that at Univeristy I have £50 to live off every week, I allot a third of this money to food, a third to necessities for example face wipes and toiletries, and the rest is used for me to have fun, which at uni means nights out. Its important to stick to this, I know for some people this can be hard, but one way of making sure is to take out X amount of money every week (in my case £50) and have it in cash, that way you wont be able to overspend like if you used your card.
The truth about self-care shouldn’t be in how you pamper yourself with luxurious bath products and cleansers but be something we give ourselves credit for every day, for looking after ourselves. I ask everyone reading this to do what I did and look back at how far you’ve come and praise yourself for it, be proud of your achievements no matter how small. Only then can you master the art of self-care.
Love Georgina xx